although I try not to dream
I sometimes do
when my husband drinks more than he works
I remember my girlhood in the village
I pretend I can run away
go back to my family
I pretend I was not married to this nuisance
when I was only 15
when a girl marries
she does not return home
if not the village, then where will I go
when he broke the beer bottle over my arm
I remembered my old dreams
fantasies of my husband
a good boy from the village
a caring man who would take me to the city
I look forward to the next day's work
so I do not have to dwell on these dreams
My daughter has already begun to dream
I will drink poison
she says
if I marry someone like my father
I dream
her husband will be a good man
the opposite of mine
This is such a tough poem; it makes me fear for Savitri if word gets back to the husband what she said. Do you worry about this problem?
ReplyDeleteI don't worry about it in the case of Savitri. She can speak Hindi, but can't write it. And she does not understand English at all. I can confidently assume her husband comes from the same class as she does, having been raised in the village with no formal schooling. In order for him to find out about what she told me, the translator who worked with me would have to bring them both to her house, read them the poem and then translate what it says. She would know better than to do that. She might let Savitri read it if she were interested. She wouldn't let her husband see it.
ReplyDeleteI get the impression that this women is not happy with her marriage and life. She often dreams of escaping the reality and going to a better life. Savitri sounds like many women in the U.S;many women come from abusive husbands and dream of changing that obstacle. Even if they can't change reality, they dream of a better life for themselves and their child.
ReplyDelete- Katherine Castelan (8-1)
I get the impression that this woman’s life is horrible. I think she is not satisfied with her life. She sounds the only difference is that the people involved were a man and his son. The son wouldn’t let anyone help him. He thought no one could connect so why bother helping. I don’t know what happened to the boy, but I do know he will be free in years to come.
ReplyDelete-Asia Ellison 8-2
- I get the impression that this woman isn't happy or satisfied with her husband or the life she is living. She talks about how her husband mistreats her. Like when he smashed the bottle in her arm which I thought was awful ! She dreams about running away back to her home and it makes me kind of sad because it's like , that's the only thing she can really do in her position. She does sound similar to some of the women in the U.S. Many women aren't happy with their lives and they come from abusive relationships. Hopefully though, Savitri findssome hope and realizes that no matter what, there is some happiness in her life.
ReplyDelete- Chelsea Huesca [ 8-1 ]
I get the impression that this women is unhappy with her life. She regrets many of her decisions in the past. She does not want the card she was dealt to be the same for the fait of her daughter.I feel that she knows the circumstance she is in but then again she knows their is no way out if it because their is no where to go. She's hopeless and so she dreams. I know this one lady that is to in the same circumstance: abusive relationship, does all the work, & FEELS she cant get out. It's sad because both these lady's have kids ad it's not good for kids to see their mother getting hit.
ReplyDelete-Venisha Ortiz (8-1)
I get the impression this poem is giving, it is obvious that this woman has accepted her life as is and believes that it cannot be changed. I think this woman chooses not to dream of a better life only because she knows her dream won’t come true. I think that this woman is living by the same rules as Lakshmi in the book “sold” especially the part where Lakshmi’s mother says ‘to endure is to triumph’. Based on this poem you can tell she is not satisfied with her life. And as you can see she doesn’t have a very good husband so that probably makes it worse for her. In this poem it seems almost like she has no choice[s] in her life. When it comes to home life she seems abused, and is practically fighting for her life. It is apparent that she doesn’t wish the life she has had upon her daughter. I would definably hope for her son’s sake that he would not end up like his father.
ReplyDeleteI get the impression that Savitri isn't completely satisfied with her life but learns to cope with it. I think that this woman is different than most women in her society because she dreams of how her life could be better. I believe that if Savitri had the chance to live her life a different way, she would. In a way I feel happy for her daughter because her mother doesn't want her to have to go through struggles with her marriage life. Even though they can't change life and the way that it is, they still have dreams. Hopefully, Savitri's daughter will have a more succesful marriage than her mother's and it can be passed down to generations.
ReplyDelete-Tazrin Nahar [8-1]
I get the impression of pain in Savitri's poem. Most of this pain is inflicted onto her by her husband, who is pretty much the arbitrator in her family. I do not think her acceptance with this is plentiful, but I believe she find solace in the hope of her daughter having a nice caring husband, unlike her own. Savitri is holding onto the dreams of her adolescence, which is what appears to be holding her back.I am glad she allows her daughter to express her feelings about the ways of her father, unlike Ama in Sold.
ReplyDeleteSavitri reminds me of my own mother. It is not because of the suffering, but it is because they share a sense of reflection. They can see the mistakes they have made, and are able to pass down the lesson to their children. My mother and Savitri both hope their children recieve better than they have.
I get the impression of pain in Savitri's poem. Most of this pain is inflicted onto her by her husband, who is pretty much the arbitrator in her family. I do not think her acceptance with this is plentiful, but I believe she find solace in the hope of her daughter having a nice caring husband, unlike her own. Savitri is holding onto the dreams of her adolescence, which is what appears to be holding her back.I am glad she allows her daughter to express her feelings about the ways of her father, unlike Ama in Sold.
ReplyDeleteSavitri reminds me of my own mother. It is not because of the suffering, but it is because they share a sense of reflection. They can see the mistakes they have made, and are able to pass down the lesson to their children. My mother and Savitri both hope their children recieve better than they have.
This was a re-try- somethiong went wrong with my 1st comment.
-Corrine Civil(8-1)
I get the impression that Savirl is not happy at all with her married life. I think that everyday she can only dwell on dreams of what she thought the man she would have as a husband although that is not what she got in reality, which i believe is painful for her.Also to see her daughter believe that she wants a man to marry that is just like her father isn't something Saviral wants for her. Saviral has shown a sense of acceptance to the way she is living. She sounds a lot like many women living in America who tent to suffer with the person whom they are married to and deals with it to just make their way through life.
ReplyDelete-Madison Lopez (8-1)
I get the impression that she has no women in her life to help her through her struggles. She is unhappy with her husband, all he does is drink all the time. Savitri does all this work for her family and he just gets drunk. I think Savitri wishes the best for her daughter. She does not want her to have a life or a husband like hers. Her daughter even said " I will drink poison if i marry someone like my father." Savitri said " Her husband will be a good man the opposite of mine." Her life is hard. She is not like any women that i know in America. I don't know anyone who has married and had kids at fifteen years old. It is stories like these and people like her husband that make you really value what you have, or value it even more. Next time you should think about when you want the new addition sidekick because you grew weary of your other one, (its just not your type anymore), and your parents wont get it and your like I HAVE THE WORST LIFE EVER. Think of those who don't have it or struggle to get it because you don't know what they go through so don't underestimate. _KEILYN OJEDA_(8-2)
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ReplyDeleteMy first impression is that as an America our lives are very different so the "gut" reaction is wow her life is horrible and hard but if it is seen as Savitri's point of view there are regreats and sadness. Especially when she wishes she didnt dream because it almost shows the reality of her harsh life. This is even shown with her daughter rather dying than having a husband like her father that doesnt contribute to improve their life. I definatly understand her point of understanding and definatly respect Savitri and the other women in this website because each have a little hardship in there life but theh are still strong.
I THINK SAVITRI SHOULD DREAM SO SHE CAN ESCAPE THE HORIBBLE LIFE SHE HAS. SHE SEEMS TO BE A VERRY STONG LADY BECAUSE SHE HAS BEEN THOUGH MANY THINGS YET SHE HAS TOLAATED THEM. HE HUSBAD SEEMS LIKE A BAD IRISPONSIBLE MAN.SHE REMINDSME OF MY AUNT BECAUSE SHE HAS BEEN THROUGH MANY SUFFERINGS LIKE HER. SHE SHOULD LET HER DAUGHTER DREAM LIKE SHE DID.
ReplyDelete-KARLA VIVAS 8-1
My first impression is that Savriti's husband treats her bad and nobody does anything about it. I think she is not happy because she is hoping for her daughter to have the opposite husband she has. Women here in the U.S. could get a divorced and in Nepal women can't get a divorced because it will bring shame to the women's family. Also, in Nepal women have no voice but in U.S they do. We should appreciate the things we could do and say.
ReplyDelete-Angelica Luna(8-2)
I get the impresion that this women doesnt like her marriage and the life she is geting from it. I think she is not satisfied that she got maried with her husband because when she was fiften she dreamed of a good and caring husband that would take her to the city and her husband is the opposite of what she dreamed of. I think she might want a divorce but she knows that it would destroy her daughter and her own life.In America when a women wants to get a divorce it isn't such a big deal.In Nepal women would be judged and it wouldnt be easy for them to find a job and have a stable home for her daughter.And her daughter might be thought has a disgraceful girl in their town.And in America women do get judged but they countinue on with their lifes ,because in America there is a society that has diferent ideas and they have open minds.
ReplyDelete- Sandra Vidal (8-2)
I get the impression that Savitri wants something better for her daughter. It seems as though that she wants her daughter to be able to dream and be able to fulfill those dreams and since she had to give up her dreams she doesn't want that to happen to her daughter. Nakissi Dosso (8-2)
ReplyDeleteI get the impression that her life isn't as great as she hoped it would be.Being married at 15 is a difficult situation to go through.That's why I understand why she hopes her daughter is led to a less dificult marrige than hers.I belive that a woman should decide when shes ready to get married.Also she shouldnt be treated as a slave otherwise she is not in a good marrige.
ReplyDelete-Lyric Chang (8-2)
I get the impression that Savitri is sad and has much pain in her life. In the poem you describe how she was married at 15 years old. Most AAmerican girls are thinking about their future and not having to be a wife. I feel how she has a strenuous time excepting her circumstances even after all of these years. Also, I thought it was great to see how she can give hope that her daughter will live a better more happy and productive life. Savitri's story reminds me of the struggle of many women all around the world. I say this because even though she has a bad marriage and lost dreams she encourqes her daughter having a better life. Overall, I believe that Savitri's story was very hard to hear about but to commonly is the "norm" for many women. It's also amazing to see that even in all her struggle she still has hope that her daughter will have a better life and be able to live her dreams.
ReplyDeleteTyler Cox (8-2)
i get the imperession that she has no freedom. i think that her husband takes control over her and thats wrong to do. i think that she has any women on her side because maybe ever women there has the same life as her. no one that i know is like that in america.
ReplyDeleteeahlam alqushi 8-2
I get the impression that Savitri is miserable but at the same time sometimes happy. I say she's miserable because she wishes she would have a better husband. A husband who may appreciate her and who treats her well. But I say she's happy too because life has given her a daughter who she is very grateful for. I guess in my opinion Savitri is going to try to give her daughter everything that she herself didn't have like a better husband. A husband who's the total opposite of hers and who will appreciate her. Her life isn't what she hoped for. Even though she is happy with what time has given her, she still wishes for a better life. She dreams about her childhood and about what her life could've been if she had gone through a different path. I personally think that her dreams give her the freedom to think beyond everything. I guess by Savitri dreaming, its the only way for her to be happy and feel safe in her life. Savitri's sounds a little bit like my own Mom's life. Even though my mom doesn't have a husband who mistreats her, she does sometimes dream about her childhood and how she was forced to make decisions she didn't want to make in life just like Savitri. She tells me how she is very happy with her life but even though she's happy, at times she sometimes she's not so happy. She tries to be grateful with what she has and is always wishing and dreaming that someday I will be able to have a life similar to hers but with not regrets or forced decisions in my life Just like Savitri dreams and hopes for her Daughter.
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